How to Avoid Bad Relationship Habits - Sevin Philips MFT

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How to avoid bad relationship habits
• Appreciation (Bad habit: taking each other for granted)
Over the years we begin to take each other for granted. Making the effort to acknowledge each other's efforts on a daily basis is a fast way to bring new life into a relationship. This is a simple and fun resolution with big feel-good rewards. Could be as simple as sending a sweet text thanking someone for the small and meaningful ways that they add to your life.
• Monthly Meeting (Bad habit: non-communication)
People often struggle to communicate their needs and wants. Many more people fall into the trap of not communicating at all. This can lead to hidden resentment and unfulfilled relationships. Having structured time to talk once a month allows couples the space and permission to share about bigger topics like money, sex, emotional needs, kids or family/household goals.
• Consideration (Bad habit: reactiveness)
You don't have to agree on everything, but at least offer the respect of considering your spouse's concerns and thoughts. The safest way to do this is to respond to your partner's concern with a statement such as, "I don't know, let me think about that."
• Quality Time (Bad habit: emotional disconnect)
With kids or busy lives we often put our relationship on the back burner. Relationships are like plants, they need regular maintenance to be healthy. Creating time that doesn't involve watching television, spending time on the computer or smartphone, or managing children and household duties is vital for a strong connection. Remember when you started dating? Do you remember all the time and effort you put into wooing your partner? That same energy makes each other feel special, wanted and connected. The longer you have been together, the more important quality time becomes.
• Make Amends (Bad habit: resentment)
It takes two people to fight. Even if one person is more at fault, there are always two sides to every fight and at least some behavior to be amended on both sides, however small. Get into the practice of being humble and honest. It will invite other people to do the same.